I read a book recently about the mother, daughter relationship and I couldn't stop the tears ( it was that emotional!)  It's one of the most complicated relationships you'll ever come across and yet it's one that makes a wealth of difference. The book I read was a series consisting of 2 books and it explored 3 generations of that relationship. The first mother wanted to strengthen her daughter so she alienated her and made her work hard hoping that will be the greatest proof of her love. The second generation, who was the daughter in the first, decided to do the opposite of what her mother did to her and so she gave her daughter freedom and urged her to play and think ( on her own ); this also caused a big rift between them. It even led to her being abused ( sexually and emotionally ) and leaving home. She got pregnant and came back home, she was forced to give up her child to her mother and felt under appreciated both ways. So by the third generation, the daughter was closer to her grandmother than to her mother which happened in the second generation too. The three mothers felt that their children did not love them or appreciate them but they were proud of them whereas the daughters also felt that their mothers didn't love them and couldn't care less.

As I read that book I couldn't help but think of the many mother daughter relationships that sound just like that, maybe not that heartbreaking though, but you know that whole you'll never measure up feeling as if your mum couldn't care less what happens to you as long as you're becoming strong enough to keep your own home. So many times I've heard girls talk about how  much they love their dads, they can tell them anything without pressure, how their mum just makes everything seem difficult. It's as if everything about that relationship is threatened until you're about 30 or so and can totally relate to her feelings which makes me wonder why we can't have that bond grow throughout without waiting so long for it. Is it so impossible to show love, support, care while at the same time building another generation of mothers and homemakers?  Or am I the only one who thinks there's something wrong? That we should always stick together and show love as females not just keep it all in or  shower it all on the males.

    So how about this, why not say a private thank you to your mother or have that conversation you keep having with your girlfriends with her because when it comes down to it, she's your first God given girlfriend and she'll do anything for you. Her love goes beyond time and season, it's real and it's enduring. Here's to all mothers who do it all and the daughters who wish to be half as good.

                                                                                           Till next time.... It's  

                                                                                                                        Paxxy.