FRIENDS
“There exists a friend
sticking closer than a brother”.
This is my favourite
friendship quote because it shows the importance of a friend to human
development.
Someone once said when I
am happy, I need someone to share it with and when I am sad, I need a shoulder
to cry on and that is exactly what friends are for. They are not only there to
help and comfort you during life trials but they are also there to share the
good times; along with your family members, friends are part of your support system.
We all have friends but
then there are friends and there are friends. There are friends you can’t do
without and there are those you talk to and then there are acquaintances. I
have so many acquaintances but not many friends, my acquaintances are those I
talk to, who help me while my friends are the ones I tell my deepest fears and
secrets.
I used to have so many
friends until I found out that friendship was so much more than talking, it is
a relationship that you have to keep working at. And just like marriage, in a
friendship it takes two to tango. It takes two people to make a friendship last
forever, it takes love, determination, forgiveness, loyalty and so many other
qualities.
The problem most people
have is that they think they don’t have to make an effort to make a friendship
work; they just want to sit and enjoy the good things that come with friendship
without doing anything at all or contributing their own quota to the
friendship. These makes a lot of people shy away from friendship.
Another reason a lot of
people do so is because of betrayals from bad friends. And just like a heart
break, a betrayal hurts. It can shatter one’s confidence in people and leave
one depressed. Betrayals from close friends can be especially painful because
of its unexpectedness. After a betrayal it is hard to trust people again but it
is possible and you will trust again.
One of the ways to get
over a betrayal is to be surrounded by friends, true friends. True friends are like diamonds precious and
rare and everyone needs at least one true friend. They may be rare but finding
them brings a lot of contentment and joy. My friends are my most precious
possession after my family, I love and value them so much as few as they are.
Friendship is all about
finding that special person that makes you want to be a better person but if
you haven’t found that person, no need to worry you will. I will mention six
steps that can help you to make and maintain true friendship.
One important step is to
be a friend by going out of your way for people, doing things for them and just
being nice. Another important step is to make time to cultivate a friendship;
remember, friendship, like a flowering plant, needs to be watered and nurtured
for it to blossom- and that takes time. The third step is to pay attention when
others talk and the fourth, be forgiving. Another is to respect the privacy of
others, avoid possessiveness which can lead to jealousy. And lastly, be
generous, show genuine interest in others, think of what you can do for them
instead of focusing on what they can do for you.
So go out there and make
friends and then you just might meet that special friend who sticks closer than
a brother.
MERCIFUL
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